I haven’t been to one wedding since I was a child. The bride was my aunt’s stepmother, and the groom was her father. When I say aunt I don’t mean a literal blood relative, my Aunt Janine is my mother’s best friend and these were her parents. This is how Black families work. Sister and friend are pretty much the same thing. My first wedding was between two elders who found each other later in life. Mr Boynes, 51 and his soon to be fifth wife Debra was 40. They met at church, singing in the choir. I was one of three flower girls. + + + + Marriage, as I learned in my Catholic school, was a financial agreement before it was ever a feeling. One family connects to another to combine their assets for one joint slay. In Leviticus chapter 18 Jacob worked for Laban for seven years only so he could marry his youngest daughter Rachel. At the wedding, Laban switched Rachel with his eldest daughter. For Jacob to marry the woman he actually loved, he had to work another 7 years...